My Big Baby…

Have your Darling ever complained that you don’t love him anymore?  I mean since the arrival of a new addition to the family of two but now three?

It is not easy to play a dual role in the family. Or maybe multiple role…as a Wife, Mother, Daughter, Daughter-in-law, and more for me who has another home-next-door…Sister, Aunt!

And juggling between work and household matters. At least I am a little blessed that I don’t have to do much house chores as they are taken care by my MIL who is staying with us.

But still, after spending 12 hours or probably more in the office, by the time I reach home and settle down, I do not have much time left for the day before bed. 1 hour? 2 hours? 3 hours if I’m not exhausted yet. 

The little one yearning for a hug and some pampering.  He may be showing signs of tiredness and so it’s time to put him to bed. Whilst, Darling waiting patiently for a listening ear, a shoulder to lean on and some expression of love from me.

At times you fell asleep with the little one.  Pity Darling…no love for today. Well, I owe you, so allow me to keep the debt for tomorrow or the day after. Too much debt!

Worst when the little one is sick, all the attention goes to him.  But when Darling is sick, he must learn to take care of himself. I wish I have two pairs of hands.  Definitely when I have a free hand, my hope that, a little pat on the forehead and a cup of milo with two tablets of paracetamol can make you feel better.

The same may happen to me…It requires understanding, acceptance and support.

Nevertheless, I never forget God’s teaching and the vow we made in front of God…..

……to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part…….

Our children shall leave us one day to build their own family.  Who else shall walk thru with us this path of life if it’s not our spouse?

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  1. kristie says:

    well said! ur spouse will always be there for u no matter what 🙂 our responsibilities as parents is to nurture and bring up our kids the best we can.

    Cheer up dear, ur hubby will understand 🙂

    ... on July March 12th, 2009
  2. caroline says:

    Strangely hubby doesn’t really complain much about it coz after coming back from work, he sure is too tired to even talk, he just wanna lie down and sleep. But after Angel went to bed, we sure will have at least an hour of us time normally, that’s if he has not doze off on our couch la 🙂

    ... on July March 12th, 2009
  3. Ann says:

    Actually I do more of the ‘complaining’ coz when I give attention to boyboy, hubby will just barge in and play with his son too.

    Right now, our son is the ctr of attention but on the sidelines….stuff still happen!

    ... on July March 13th, 2009
  4. Merryn says:

    life’s like that. at nite when darling is happily in front of the tv, i m still slaving myself sweeping, cleaning da kitchen, folding laundry, washing the toys and endless chores that only can be done once ethan’s asleep. but no matter how tired i am, or darling is, we make it a point to spend at least an hour talking about our day, so as not to lose touch on each other. we have a massage chair at home but hardly use it. wat’s best is we help to massage each other’s tired shoulders at the end of the day.

    u r tired, he is tired. he is not feeling well, so a little bit cranky. just a phase. ur big baby will outgrow that phase.

    everybody’s saying that the big baby will understand. but most important is, the big baby needs to realise, that the wife is sometimes tired too and it takes two to tango. enjoy your weekend! 🙂

    ... on July March 13th, 2009
  5. Pet says:

    we must learn to adjust with the additional one…or 2!

    ... on July March 13th, 2009
  6. Ryan mami says:

    Hehe… I was the one who complained… coz his attention and time spent more on the internet & photography than me + the little one!

    ... on July March 13th, 2009
  7. sting says:

    I hear you… sigh, I do wish I have more time with hubby 🙂 but it’s sometimes so difficult with so many things that needs our attn…

    ... on July March 13th, 2009
  8. Joanne Tiew says:

    For me, I also noticed that I spent less time pak toh with my husband since I have Sarah.

    Thanks for posting this. I shall love him more…

    ... on July March 14th, 2009
  9. yugene says:

    Same to me here…hubby did not have much complain but I feel a bit pai seh cos less time to take care of him.

    Recently he suffering from cough n phlegmn, usually if I take good care of him, he will get well in 2 weeks time now already dragging for about 2 months…’sigh’….cos the little one also coughing n phlegmn…

    My best time to look at my hubby is when he sleep with the little one….sometimes feel bad that spend too little time with him…:-)

    ... on July March 17th, 2009
  10. lil prince's mum says:

    It’s really not easy, to become so many roles in life…..

    ... on July March 17th, 2009
  11. andrewjune says:

    well, at least we do hv lunch without rachael everyday except weekends (that does gives us time to talk)…

    when a baby comes along, it always a tricky situation…

    but i thk both the hubby and wife should understand it is just a phase, and besided having the lil baby as the centre of attention, we too sometimes need time to ourselves…

    that’s why both hubby and myself also hv our own time for exercise!

    hey lucky you, you’ve got help from MIL!

    ... on July March 18th, 2009
  12. Joanne Tiew says:

    I just did a google search for pic of FAMILY to answer one of the tag and I found out two of your family pics were on the first page.

    I am wondering how you managed to get so high ranking in google?

    ... on July March 19th, 2009
  13. debbie says:

    Same goes here, Ryan mami. Hubby never complaint anything although all my attention goes to the Gen-X. 🙂

    ... on July March 20th, 2009

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