Changes in Life

One month ago, Darling move on to a new company and it’s a new job this time. It is more or less still in the same specialization but from a fixed working hours to working on shift.

It significantly impacted both of us….our actions, thoughts and feelings.

At night, the bed is all mine and Jonathan’s. At day time, the bed is all his and Jonathan’s.  We barely see talk to each other for more than 3 hours each day.

It adds on more worries. You won’t be able to doze off peacefully until you sees his SMS that tells you he had reached the office safely. The next morning you may be wondering if he would be too sleepy to drive home.

No more chauffer to send me to work or for late night shopping. Ok Julie, it’s time to be independent! But I’m still not good in parking ler. Darling says when you heard a bang then you know your mistake. Isn’t it too late by then?

All activities must be planned ahead now. Good thing is that he can help run some errands in the day time.

Oh no!  Not all things can be planned. How am I going to handle when #2 decides to see the world in the night?  Perhaps I should bring Jonathan along to ante-natal class so that he can take over Daddy’s job if Daddy can’t make it on time.

Taking care of Jonathan alone is not a problem as he is an easy boy to take care of.  Will it be the same when #2 comes? Praying hard that #2 is as tough as Jonathan and praying also that Jonathan will be a great helper to Mommy in taking care of #2.

Am I thinking too much? Any Mommy/Daddy out there is going through the same thing as I am or maybe worst?

I am glad and thankful that I have my sis staying next door.  Surely, when #2 comes, there will be more changes and challenges in life be it easy or tough ones.  But we believe that with our trust in God, He will make rough path a smoother one.

On Becoming Mommy’s Boy

Rule #1. “Put your hands together, close your eyes and pray…” before meal and bedtime. (But he doesn’t close his eyes but bow down his head instead. Sometimes I’ll do a spot check by peeping at him if he curi makan or not. He didn’t! Amen!)

Rule #2.  Have meals always on the high chair and not in front of the TV.

Rule #3. Buckle up when you are on your high chair. (more of Daddy’s rule)

Rule #4.  Wipe your dirty hands and mouth with a hankerchief and not your clothes. (Do you wipe your tongue too? He does!)

Rule #5.  No wasting of milk and bring the bottle to the kitchen after you had finished it. (But I wonder why they always left 1 or 1/2 oz milk unfinished)

Rule #6.  Keep the toys before you go out kai-kai and before leaving the living room for bedtime. (But not all the time coz sometimes I don’t have the patience to wait for him or when we are short of time)

Rule #7.  Abide when daddy or mommy says “Let’s go”. (Else there comes the “magic stick”)

Rule #8.  Wear your shoe when you are out from the house and make sure you wears it right.

Rule #9.  Sit in the shopping cart always and no running around the supermarket.

Rule #10.  Stand up by yourself when you tripped/fell.

Rule #11.  Put your dirty clothes in the laundry basket.

Rule #12.  Take and eat the biscuit one at a time. No eating like a Garfield.

Rule #13.  Always on your car seat. Cry and fuss will not release you from it.

Rule #14. Clear your toys that are in the bath tub after bath. (He sticks the fish foams on the wall and put the rest in the basin)

Rule #15. Comb your hair after bath. (I used to comb for him but beginning to let him comb himself now. Of course I still have to complete the job for him)

 

So, how well did he scores? I’ll give him 95%.  What happened to another 5%? Well, that goes to his tantrum, temper, laziness and not paying attention.

Something to Share…

While I’m still drafting my next post, I would like to post this up on my Cyberhome as a gesture of thank you to someone out there.

She was the first mommy blogger that sent Jonathan pressie on his 1st birthday. That year, we exchanged gifts on our son’s birthday and Christmas. It so happen that both our boys’ birthday falls on the same month and just few days apart.

This year, I reminded myself to send pressie to her son before his birthday. But that never happened because the pregnancy hormone made my memory gone wild and made me restless. And so her boy’s present is still sitting on my desk…unwrap even. Nevertheless, she still remember us. I was happy when she dropped me a note that she’s sending over a pressie for Jonathan’s 2nd birthday. So sweet and thoughtful of her.

My dear friend, I thank God for you. May God bless you and your family with happiness always.

Another of God’s Blessing

The Almighty One above has planted a “seed” in our family and we will be harvesting the “fruit” in March next year. 

This time was so much different from the first experience. I get all the symptoms and taste buds gone wild. It’s either the hormones is making up or age is catching up. 

God has never failed to bless me with the good things. Having all these discomfort, I am thankful for Darling. He took over most of the responsibilites. Washing up after meals and taking care of Jonathan from bathing to his meals to cleaning up his poo poo and making his milk, except putting him to sleep because this little boy only wants Mommy’s sweet smell.  🙂

21 Days After His Birth Day

I just need to pen this down…for our family journal and sharing with other parents out there.  This gonna be a long one.

It has been 2 years now…Two years ago of this day, Jonathan boy was diagnosed with Pyloric Stenosis and went through a surgery.

It all started when he was 2 weeks old.  He started to vomit forcefully (projectile vomitting) after each feeding.  During the first visit to the paediatrician, he suspected air in the stomach and so gave us some colic medicine. Two days later, we went back to the paed and he said it could be reflux or allergy. But Jonathan boy was fully breastfed and breast milk has never been not safe to a baby. Nevertheless, we listened to him and I stopped BF temporary and gave him anti-regurgitation milk as recommended for the reflux by paed. We were told to monitor his urine and bowel movement too.

Despite all these, his condition persisted and worsen. Still vomit forcefully, no intake of milk and his urine and bowel movement reduced. He was restless and slept most of the time. Losing weight and had sunken eyes. My mom, sis and MIL didn’t know what was wrong and had never experienced such condition in our family nor heard of it. Seeing him like that, I have the feeling of losing him and kept praying to God for mercy.

I looked through all the baby reference books I have and searched through the Internet but couldn’t solve this mystery puzzle. Every time, day and night, I was never at peace when feeding him as he may vomit anytime.  It had became phobia. I had to be prepared with container, clothing and mop.  I lost my appetite and lost weight during my confinement.

I looked through again at Dr. Spock’s baby and childcare book, page by page and word by word. God hears me and fix my eye on a subject called Pyloric Stenosis. I later confirmed this medical term on the Internet. Jonathan boy had exactly all the signs and symptoms mentioned. But to confirm the diagnosis, he may need to go through X-ray, barium swallow or ultrasound. The first two is too much to bear for a baby and so I was hoping that the ultrasound alone can confirm the diagnosis.

The next day, we brought him immediately to the paediatrician and told him if Jonathan could be suffering from Pyloric Stenosis. He was not convinced of that because he didn’t feel any abnormality during his physical examination as usually, you can feel an “olive” at the abdomen. And usually, the symptoms only showing when baby is 3 weeks old. Moreover, it is unlikely to happen among the Chinese, based on the statistics. No wonder he didn’t diagnose this earlier. Good thing the paeditrician was compassionate and he was willing to schedule for an immediate ultrasound to rule this out.

While waiting for the ultrasound report, I was praying to God that the ultrasound could diagnose his medical condition and let it be Pyloric Stenosis so that our mystery puzzle can be resolved. Really praise God that the ultrasound report came back positive to rule out that Jonathan is suffering from Pyloric Stenosis. Immediately, he helped us to make arrangement to see the best paediatric surgeons at SJMC.

We thought things would be fine now since we know what was wrong with Jonathan boy. But not really. They had to put him on tubes and the worst was putting a tube through his nose to drain the fluid from his stomach.

We heard his suffering cries from outside the room. It was so heartaching. When the nurse brought him out, my whole heart fell and tears rolled down. We didn’t expect and wasn’t prepared to see him this way. There was another tube for the saline at his foot as that was the best place they could find after trying from his wrist.

The surgery was scheduled for the next day. That night, both of us couldn’t sleep. He was cranky because of hunger. I can only pacify him and wet his lips with water. The next morning, I was allowed to accompany him at the ops theater recovery area because of his age. Praised the Lord that the surgery went well and the surgeon confirmed once again that it was Pyloric Stenosis and he had fixed it!

That same night, he was cranky. He was not allowed to drink yet. He was only allowed to drink few teaspoons of glucose the next morning just to monitor his digestion. I was only allowed to BF him later in the afternoon. It was such a relieved then.

The above pic was taken one his fullmoon which was 1 week after the surgery. It left a scar on his abdomen. Just a thin and very light line about 5cm long. I didn’t apply any anti-scar oil. Let it be there as something to remember. Anyway, the scar is not so obvious and appear on covered area.

Now, whenever you watches him eat, you  never lost your appetite. And he never stop eating. Praise the Lord!

From Ethan’s Grandma

Jonathan boy received something special and very personalised from Ethan’s grandma. It came just nice as his 2 years old birthday present.  

 

See…beautiful and priceless isn’t it?

Another happiest person seeing this is me!  Haha….coz I’m a patch work lover but I don’t sew. My ever faithful blankie and pillow case made from simple patch work by my mom many many years ago.  And my CG members gave Jonathan boy a homemade patch work quilt on his fullmoon.

Although Jonathan boy doesn’t know how to appreciate it now, but he sure loves the pillow especially the cartoons and his name sewn on it. Each night, I’ll recite to him the spelling of his name on the pillow. At times he will show and tell me where is Mickey’s car, nose, ear, hat, etc.  So this is not just a pillow or bolster but a pillow book!

Ethan boy, say thanks and give your Grandma a kiss on behalf of Jonathan boy. Not forgetting Aunty Merryn too. Jonathan loves you! *muaks*